What is the strength of your relationship? How would you rate it on a scale out of 10? Is there any room for improvement? If your relationship is like most, then yes, there’s always some room for improvement. Every relationship of course experiences its ups and downs. On the one hand we have the good times, and on the other hand we have the emotional struggles. The relationships that weather these storms often get stronger with time. But why does this work for some couples and not for others? Well it all comes down to the little things. Specifically six guiding principles that will show you how to build a loving relationship.
1) THE ESSENTIAL RELATIONSHIP INGREDIENTS
Every successful relationship that stands the test of time is built upon a strong foundation of essential ingredients. These ingredients help support the relationship through its ups and downs. Strong loving relationships are of course first and foremost built upon shared values, beliefs and goals. These three ingredients hold the keys that help couples make mutually supportive decisions that move their relationship forward. Strong loving relationships do however also need the ingredients of trust, dependability, respect, honesty, patience and loyalty. In combination these ingredients form the bedrock of all successful relationships.
2) ALWAYS TALK THINGS OVER
A great many relationships often fall apart because of a lack of direct communication. Couples simply choose not to talk about their thoughts, feelings, concerns and problems, and instead allow these issues to fester up inside. Sooner or later though, these issues do have a tendency to float up to the surface, however by that stage things often completely get out of hand. What was initially a small issue has now become a gigantic problem. Those couples who have strong loving relationships solve issues before they become problems using open, honest, nonjudgmental, and genuine communication.
3) GIVE MORE THAN YOU TAKE
Anyone who has ever been in a relationship clearly understands that in order to make things work that there must be some level of compromise. This of course means that each partner needs to balance “giving” with “taking”. However, within many relationships there exists no balance. Unfortunately there is often more taking than giving, and that’s of course when things start to break down. In order to build a strong loving relationship you must commit yourself to give more than you take. Moreover, you must always stay open minded, support your partner, and be willing to make compromises for the betterment of the relationship.
4) DISPLAY YOUR LOVE AND AFFECTION
How often do you tell your partner that you love them? How often do you display your love and affection? Does your partner even know how much you truly care? We of course assume they do, but possibly that’s not the case. Strong loving relationships are built upon the consistent display of love and affection. However, this isn’t just about telling your partner that you love them. This is rather about showing your partner that you love and appreciate them in a multitude of ways. For instance, hold hands, dance together, kiss and hug, share small gifts, and provide them with your undivided attention.
5) MAKE TIME FOR ROMANCE
In the beginning of every relationship there seems to be a lot of time for romance, love and affection. However, as the relationship matures, romance tends to take a backseat to the rigors of life. Romance no longer has priority, and as a result we begin to lose touch with our partner’s true needs, wants and desires. Those couples who have a strong loving relationship always make time for romance. They organize romantic dates, surprise outings, and adventurous activities that help strengthen their bond. Romance is after all often found within the little things you do that make your partner feel appreciated.
6) AVOID THESE RELATIONSHIP MISTAKES
Those who build a strong loving relationship do so on the foundations of the ingredients mentioned within the first guiding principle. These ingredients help them avoid several relationship mistakes that often sabotage most other couples. We all of course make mistakes. We are human after all, and at times our emotions and ego gets the better of us. We might for instance force our partner to change, or maybe we take them for granted, or possibly we hold unrealistic expectations for the relationship, or maybe we just don’t take them seriously enough. No matter what the mistake, learn from it and use it to grow stronger as a couple.
HOW TO BUILD A LOVING RELATIONSHIP SUMMARY
So there you have it. You now have the answers on how to build a loving relationship. Building a strong loving relationship however isn’t easy. In fact, it takes a significant amount of work and effort from both partners. You will of course have your ups and downs, but as long as you are willing and committed to work through these challenges, then you will come out stronger as a couple on the other side.
The relationship you have with your partner is very much like a changing and evolving entity that is undergoing constant transformation. In order to make your relationship work long-term, you and your partner must be willing to nurture this relationship and guide it down an optimal path. This will of course take effort and time, but in the end the love you share will be a worthy prize. 🙂
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Learn More About this Topic
Want to know more about this topic? Here are some helpful links to articles that you may find of value:
- 10 Ways to Create a Strong, Intimate Relationship @ Tiny Buddha
- 14 Ways to Create the Best Relationship of Your Life @ Mind Body Green
- 50 Ways to be Romantic on the Cheap @ Zen Habits
- Building a More Nurturing and Living Romantic Relationship @ IQ Matrix
- How to Build Intimacy in Any Loving Relationship @ Think Simple Now