Life can be tough at times. We don’t always get what we want, and things don’t necessarily turn out as expected. In fact, at times life kind of feels a little unfair. When things go wrong, they all just seem to go wrong at the same time. Life is just full of problems, and dealing with those problems is extremely overwhelming and difficult. People also don’t cooperate as we expect them to. They have their own opinions and do their own thing. Life is just a real struggle at times, and it’s easy to feel depressed and miserable. However, just maybe life isn’t as you imagine it to be. Just maybe it’s a little different. Possibly the following six steps can help.
1) EXAMINE YOUR THOUGHTS
It’s not easy controlling how we feel. There’s just so much going on in our lives, and we become so invested in certain outcomes, that when things don’t go our way, it can become quite a struggle. Even though it might not seem as though you are in control of how you feel, you actually are. How you feel is always a direct result of how you have chosen to think about yourself, about your life, and about the situation you find yourself in. By changing how you think about these things, you subsequently change how you feel about them. For now, just recognize these thoughts. Get a sense of how you’re thinking about things and observe how that makes you feel.
2) OPTIMIZE YOUR PHYSIOLOGY
How you feel at any given moment is also closely tied to how you move and use your body. For instance, when you’re feeling sad, your shoulders will most likely slump down, your back will be arched, your eyes and head will be tilted to the ground, and your body will be curled up and constricted. It’s almost impossible to feel good about yourself when you use your body in this way. On the other hand if you choose to suddenly stand tall, to breathe deeply, to move with purpose, and to smile with confidence, that is when you will start feeling more self-assured and energized. Try adjusting your physiology right now, and make yourself feel a little better.
3) FIND REASONS TO KEEP GOING
How you feel in the moment also depends on how you talk to yourself. And how you talk to yourself depends entirely on where you decide to focus your attention. If you focus on all the difficulties and struggles in your life, then that will make you feel miserable and depressed. However, if you choose to focus on positive aspects of your life, then that will make you feel much better. Take a moment to stand in front of a mirror. Look back at yourself and smile. Now focus on something positive in your life and use that as a catalyst to give yourself a motivational pep-talk about your resilient nature and desire to work your way through your difficulties.
4) ASK SOLUTION FOCUSED QUESTIONS
You are seeing and interpreting the world a certain way because of the stories you are telling yourself about how you believe things to be. There are however other stories you can tell yourself and interpretations you can make. This is where questions can be of value. The questions you ask yourself effectively direct your focus and attention on key areas of your life that can help you move forward in a better way. Specifically ask questions that challenge your limiting beliefs and view of the world. Ask solution focused questions that help you see your life and circumstances in more optimal and helpful ways.
5) SEEK GUIDANCE AND DIRECTION
Sometimes when we’re caught in the middle of our own emotional struggles, it’s difficult to see the light. It’s difficult to see our life and circumstances in more optimal ways. This is when it can be helpful to reach out to others. Reach out to someone you trust and seek their guidance and support. Tell them about your life and circumstances. Give them a glimpse of how you feel, and then ask them for their perspective. Ask them how they see the situation. Ask them what they would do in your shoes. And ask them for solutions and ideas that can help you move forward in a better way. Life is after all, all about perspective.
6) LIVE WITH PURPOSE
It’s always difficult to move forward when we feel stuck in the present moment. There will always be things that will try and hold us back from making positive change. Whether it’s people, circumstances, or emotional experiences, you will struggle to move forward if you keep looking back. In order to break free you need to switch to looking forward. And the best way to do that is to start living your life with a sense of purpose. To begin with, set some inspiring goals, but be realistic with your expectations. And no matter what goals you set, make happiness your number one priority. When you’re happy, everything just feels better.
No matter how bad things may seem at this very moment, you can get through it. You have within you all the resources and tools you need to beat depression. And all you have to do is choose. You can either choose to continue living and feeling miserable about yourself, or you can choose a different life that’s built upon hope, faith and optimism.
You can actually choose to be different, to think different, to ask a different set of questions, and to view your life and circumstances in a very different way. You can make that choice, but it’s of course your choice to make. Nobody can make it for you. Just decide.
Do you want to keep things as they are, or do you want to make a positive change? The choice you make could inevitably seal your fate. So choose wisely.
Imagine for a moment you could develop new habits and methods of thinking where you naturally and effortlessly adopt these ideas into your life. How would that make you feel? Would you feel more fulfilled, empowered and in control?
Yes, there is such simplicity within this IQ Doodle, but of course there is a reason for that. Making positive change doesn’t need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where we progressively develop new habits-of-mind through repeated exposure and implementation. And that’s what these IQ Doodles are for.
We have prepared for you an IQ Doodle pack that includes several variations of this IQ Doodle that you can use for guidance and inspiration throughout the day. Use it consistently and you will begin making positive changes in the way you live, work and interact with others.
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Want to know more about this topic? Here are some helpful links to articles that you may find of value:
- 8 Ways to Actively Fight Depression @ Psychology Today
- 10 Tips to Help Relieve Depression and Heartache @ Tiny Buddha
- Finding My Way Out of Depression @ Think Simple Now
- How I’m Beating Depression and Taking Back Control of My Life @ Elite Daily
- How to Fight Depression and Start Feeling Better About Yourself @ IQ Matrix