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how to get over disappointment

How to Get Over Disappointment

So you’re feeling disappointed? It sure doesn’t feel good, but just maybe things aren’t as bad as they seem. Just maybe you can still get over disappointment. However, you of course don’t know that yet. You feel disappointed because of unfulfilled expectations. What you expected would happen, didn’t, and now you’re wallowing in disappointment and self-pity, and this is keeping you stuck and feeling absolutely miserable about yourself. It’s time to snap out of it, and wake up to the fact that disappointment is an incredibly useful emotion that can help you move forward in a better way.

1. STAY CALM AND COLLECTED

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Okay, something just happened that didn’t work out as you had expected, and now you’re feeling miserably disappointed. It’s okay. Let’s just stay calm and collected. Accept that disappointment is only a temporary condition that results from how you have chosen to interpret this experience. In other words, your perspective of the situation is what’s making you feel disappointed. Another person in your shoes might actually feel very different about what just happened. Let’s therefore not jump to conclusions. Let’s instead assume that things might just not be as bad as you make them out to be.

2. ACKNOWLEDGE HOW YOU’RE FEELING

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It’s of course perfectly okay to admit that you’re feeling disappointed. In fact, by accepting that you are feeling disappointed can help you to make better sense of the situation. Disappointment helps us to better assess what happened and how things could potentially have been different. With that in mind, consider what actually happened, what should have happened, and why you are feeling disappointed in this particular situation? Making sense of the situation in this way can help you to make peace with your feelings, which of course is a necessary step for getting over disappointment.

3. RE-EVALUATE YOUR EXPECTATIONS

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Let’s just make it very clear that the only reason you are feeling disappointed right now, is because you have failed to meet your expectations of the situation. You possibly set all these high standards for yourself, and told yourself all these wonderful stories about what will happen and how you will feel afterwards. But unfortunately, things just didn’t work out as you had imagined. It’s time now to asses your expectations. Where they realistic and reasonable? Did they potentially set you up for disappointment? Honest answers to these questions will help you begin getting over disappointment.

4. RE-ASSESS THE SITUATION

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Yes, you’ve already acknowledged that you’re feeling disappointed. But is it possible that how you’re seeing things, and the story you are telling yourself about what just happened, isn’t the only interpretation you could make about this situation? Is it possible, that circumstances might not be as bad as you make them out to be? Just maybe there is some value to be found here. With this in mind, consider one positive thing you can take away from this situation. Maybe there is an opportunity here, or possibly there is a hidden lesson that can help you make better decisions moving forward.

5. TURN DISAPPOINTMENT INTO A CHALLENGE

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In order to completely get over disappointment you need to find a valuable lesson in this experience. To do this, you must first identify what you are grateful for, and then search for a learning experience that makes you feel better and more hopeful about your predicament. Now take that learning experience and turn it into a challenge. Turn it into a challenge that motivates you to do better the next time around. But do keep in mind that the challenge you set must be somewhat within your control. Anything not within your control will only set you up for another disappointment.

6. MODIFY YOUR OBJECTIVE

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Moving on from the previous step, it’s important that you clearly outline a different objective that is within your personal control and that also plays to your personal strengths. Therefore, modify your objective, make sure it’s under your personal control and influence, and ensure that it works to your personal strengths and abilities. In other words, your goal must be aligned with the knowledge, skills and the resources you have at your disposal that you can then use to obtain your desired outcome. Checking off all these boxes will significantly reduce your chances of future disappointment.


CONCLUDING THOUGHTS

Getting over disappointment of course isn’t easy. It takes work and effort to consciously shift how we think and feel about a situation. It’s so difficult in fact, that many people prefer instead to wallow in their own self-pity, rather than making the effort to challenge how they view their own predicament. You are of course probably very different to most. You now clearly understand that disappointment is only a state-of-mind, and that getting over disappointment is something you can progressively work through. In fact, you now have all the knowledge you need to turn disappointment into an incredibly valuable and rewarding experience.


SIX STEPS FOR GETTING OVER DISAPPOINTMENT

Imagine for a moment you could develop new habits and methods of thinking where you naturally and effortlessly adopt these ideas into your life. How would that make you feel? Would you feel more fulfilled, empowered and in control?

Yes, there is such simplicity within this IQ Doodle, but of course there is a reason for that. Making positive change doesn’t need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where we progressively develop new habits-of-mind through repeated exposure and implementation. And that’s what these IQ Doodles are for.

We have prepared for you an IQ Doodle pack that includes several variations of this IQ Doodle that you can use for guidance and inspiration throughout the day. Use it consistently and you will begin making positive changes in the way you live, work and interact with others.

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How to stop anxiety

How to Overcome Anxiety

Do you get anxious when facing the unknown? Do you struggle to keep your emotions in-check? We all experience anxiety from time-to-time. It’s something that many of us just accept and live with. But it doesn’t need to be this way. We can all learn how to overcome anxiety using six simple steps. These six steps will show you how to deal with anxiety and how to control anxiety far more effectively. Use these steps to take charge of those anxious moments that hold you back from being yourself.


1. RECOGNIZE SYMPTOMS OF ANXIETY

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Anxiety typically manifests as an unpleasant feeling you have about uncontrollable and unavoidable circumstances. It’s an uneasiness you have about a future filled with possible threats and negative experiences. Typical symptoms of anxiety include trouble concentrating, irrational worries, dizziness, sweating, tension and irritability. Recognizing the symptoms of anxiety helps you become aware of what’s happening and how you are responding to circumstances. And awareness is of course the first step to positive change and transformation.

2. OBSERVE YOUR BEHAVIOR

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Overcoming anxiety requires being very mindful of your thoughts, of your self-talk, of your mood and of the irrational beliefs that are currently clouding your judgement. It’s important that you acknowledge that you are seeing and interpreting things a certain way, and this is subsequently causing you to feel anxious. How you are thinking about this situation, how you are talking to yourself about these events, and what you believe about your predicament influences your mood. Use mindfulness to become an observer of the workings of your inner world.

3. FOCUS ON THE PRESENT MOMENT

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Having become conscious and aware of your inner world, it’s now time to settle yourself within the present moment. Close your eyes and focus on the rhythm of your breath and begin concentrating on all the things that are within your control. Ask yourself: What’s working for me? What’s within my direct control? Overcoming anxiety requires that you let go of the past, ignore the future, and just settle on the one thing that you can control right here, right now. You are far more resilient and resourceful than you realize. Just focus and be in the moment.

4. PUT THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE

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Having settled yourself into the moment, it’s now time to openly acknowledge and recognize that your anxiety is a direct result of how you are imagining this situation. You are very likely imagining a very bleak and troublesome future. And it’s these imaginings that are causing you to feel anxious about your predicament. To change how you feel you must shift your perspective of the situation and throw doubt on your beliefs. Ask yourself: How do I know that what I’m imagining will actually happen? How could it potentially become a positive experience?

5. OPTIMIZE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

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To overcome anxiety you must now break your emotional pattern, and the best way to do that is through optimizing your body language. Recognize that how you use your body affects how you feel at any given moment. To break this emotional pattern you need to snap yourself into a more optimal state-of-mind. To do this, begin by straightening your back, putting a big smile on your face, talking with confidence and moving with purpose. Move your body as though you are feeling confident and self-assured. It’s impossible to feel anxious when moving this way.

6. START TAKING CONTROL

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You are now in an optimal state-of-mind to start taking control of your anxiety attacks. However, overcoming anxiety can be challenging at times. It’s a difficult emotion that can very quickly overwhelm you. With this in mind, it’s important to progressively train yourself to work through your feelings of anxiety gradually in small doses over time. One way to do this is through the process of visualization. Visualizing the unfamiliar circumstances in advance can help inoculate you against anxiety. Simply visualize yourself handling the situation in a calm manner, over and over again.

CONCLUDING THOUGHTS

Using these six steps on how to overcome anxiety will help you to progressively work through your feelings of anxiety. Dealing with anxiety of course isn’t easy, but it’s possible to work through your feelings as long as you are open and willing to move through each step of this process. Overcoming anxiety will of course take practice. But over time you will develop a new habitual pattern that will help you to overcome your feelings of anxiety in more optimal ways.


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Imagine for a moment you could develop new habits and methods of thinking where you naturally and effortlessly adopt these ideas into your life. How would that make you feel? Would you feel more fulfilled, empowered and in control?

Yes, there is such simplicity within this IQ Doodle, but of course there is a reason for that. Making positive change doesn’t need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where we progressively develop new habits-of-mind through repeated exposure and implementation. And that’s what these IQ Doodles are for.

We have prepared for you an IQ Doodle pack that includes several variations of this IQ Doodle that you can use for guidance and inspiration throughout the day. Use it consistently and you will begin making positive changes in the way you live, work and interact with others.

Visit the IQ Doodle Store to learn more about how to use this IQ Doodle and begin optimizing the way you live your life today.


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