When things don’t work out as expected, do you get easily frustrated? Do you tend to shout, scream, stomp your feet and pull on your hair? Whenever you’re feeling frustrated, this indicates that you are being held back from something by self-imposed barriers and limitations. In other words, you are the reason why you’re feeling frustrated, and only you have the power to break this pattern. However, even though on the surface frustration feels uncomfortable, below the surface it can be quite beneficial as an instant motivator that stimulates your imagination. Here are six steps on how to deal with frustration.
1) RECOGNIZE THE MOMENT OF FRUSTRATION
Frustration isn’t something that suddenly hits us out of the blue, it is rather something that builds up progressively over time. You might initially feel a little resistance at first. This resistance manifests from the fact that you don’t feel as though you are in full control of the situation. All of a sudden you start feeling a little anxious as you sense your inadequacies and limitations bubbling up to the surface. You have all these expectations about how things should be, but for one reason or another doubts start to creep into your head. Being mindful of these feelings will help you capture the precise moments of frustration.
2) IMMEDIATELY GET CURIOUS
Instead of stomping out of the room, immediately stop yourself and get curious. Get curious about this situation and about what exactly is getting you so worked up. Ask yourself what’s working and what’s not working for you. Moreover, figure out how exactly you are approaching this situation and whether or not this is actually the best approach to take. See your frustration as a problem or puzzle that must be solved. You know for instance that you can get this done — if you didn’t, then you would feel despondent. However, you are instead feeling frustrated. Use it as motivation to move yourself forward.
3) GAIN SOME NEEDED CLARITY
It’s time now to gain some clarity about what it is you want to achieve. In other words, what’s your goal? What are you trying to accomplish? What is the outcome you would like to realize? Your frustrations may very well result from the fact that you don’t quite understand what you’re working toward. You haven’t been clear enough, and subsequently the methods you have chosen to work through this puzzle haven’t gotten you the results you had expected. However, once you have the necessary clarity of mind, this will help you see things more clearly and allow you to move forward in more optimal ways.
4) SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE
Now that you have some clarity about what you want, it’s time to challenge yourself to view your predicament in a more optimal way. In other words, it’s time to shift your perspective of the situation and choose to view your frustrations as an opportunity or challenge to do things better. Your first objective is to identify what exactly has been working for you. There must be something that you have done well. Identify what that is and then also figure out the mistakes you might have made along the way. Now view those mistakes as helpful coincidences and use them as an opportunity for positive change.
5) THINK FLEXIBLY AND CREATIVELY
In order to work through your frustrations in optimal ways, it’s vital that you think flexibly and creatively about your predicament. You’ve obviously struggled and made mistakes along the way. However, these mistakes haven’t been in vain. Making mistakes has helped you learn valuable lessons about what works, and about what doesn’t work in this particular situation. Use these learning experiences as a platform for finding alternative ways for getting things done. Maybe there is a better way to work through this that you hadn’t yet considered? Or just maybe someone else can help you think things through a little differently?
6) WORK WITH PURPOSE
We all get frustrated from time-to-time. However, some people deal with frustration in more optimal ways than others. Those are of course the people who work with purpose. They turn their frustrations into a game and commit themselves to taking proactive and purposeful action until they solve their frustration puzzle. Turning your frustrations into a game will keep you interested and focused. It also stimulates your imagination and encourages a lighthearted playful approach to problem solving. Moreover, it challenges you to try new things — to take chances and risks in the pursuit of your goals.
HOW TO DEAL WITH FRUSTRATION SUMMARY
Handling frustration is never an easy experience, however it doesn’t necessarily need to be an overwhelming experience. Making a few tweaks in the way you handle yourself during these frustrating moments can make all the difference in the end.
You now effectively have the blueprint in place on how to deal with frustration. Remember though that frustration is a choice. You always have a choice of whether to deal with frustration or whether to allow frustration to get the better of you. If you choose to deal with frustration, then you effectively hold the power in your hands to influence the outcome of your experience. However, if on the other hand, you allow frustration to get the better of you, then you will struggle to achieve anything of significance in your life.
Imagine for a moment you could develop new habits and methods of thinking where you naturally and effortlessly adopt these ideas on how to deal with frustration into your life. How would that make you feel? Would you feel more fulfilled, empowered and in control?
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Learn More About this Topic
Want to know more about this topic? Here are some helpful links to articles that you may find of value:
- 4 Reasons Why We Get Frustrated and How to Cope @ Huffington Post
- 33 Ways to Overcome Your Frustrations @ Dragos Roua
- How to Free Yourself from the Grips of Frustration @ Steve Pavlina
- How to Overcome Frustration and Relieve Stress @ IQ Matrix
- The Frustration Barrier: The Key Obstacle to Being Good at Anything @ Scott H. Young