Making Every Moment of Your Life Count…
Years from now when we reflect back on our lives we will often regret the things we didn’t do rather than the ones we chose to do.
It’s funny how this comes about. All those things that scared us, all those things that we were too afraid to try, and all those things that we thought we never had the time for come into full perspective when we approach the end of our journey here on earth.
There are just so many things we could have done, should have done, and would have done if we had lived through those events again. But today all that’s left is regret and a bitter feeling in our gut that reminds us we could have done things differently and as a result we could have had a richer, more fulfilling and rewarding life experience.
Yet today we only have regrets. Why is that?
Instead of going with the flow and living our lives to the fullest we say “no” too often, we refrain from taking chances, we wilt away from opportunities, and we get stuck doing stuff that we don’t want to do — all along thinking that we will one day get the chance to do the things that make our hearts sing. But unfortunately for most people that day never comes, and all that’s left at the end of our journey are a set of memories filled with regret and anguish about the poor choices and decisions that were made years ago.
But how do we live a life of no regrets? How do we make the most of every situation to ensure that at the end of our journey we are filled with fond memories and not “what if” scenarios running through our heads?
James Dean put it eloquently:
“Remember: Life is short, break the rules (they were made to be broken). Forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that makes you smile. The clouds are lined with silver and the glass is half full (though the answers won’t be found at the bottom). Don’t sweat the small stuff. You are who you are meant to be. Dance as if no one’s watching, love as if it’s all you know, dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”
The lesson here is not to get carried away with the small and insignificant stuff that often clouds our judgment. Instead focus on the things that make you laugh, smile, and all those things that make your heart sing. They are the things that will bring you a lifetime of fulfilment and happiness.
We must also learn to dream big and then pursue those dreams with an unbridled passion and zest for life. We must act with purpose and live with purpose, only then will life bring us the fulfilment we desire to experience.
The dreams you have for your life should have no bounds or limitations. You must therefore dream as if you’ll live forever. In other words, set big goals and pursue them with all the passion in the world. Don’t be deterred by obstacles, adversity or setbacks. These things are a part of life — a part of everyone’s life. Living your dreams will take work and effort, but it will all no doubt be worth it in the end.
We must also live as if we’ll die today. This means that we must enjoy the moment and make the best of every situation. Don’t get stuck fearing the future, worrying about what will happen, or stressing about the moment. Don’t even give a thought to regretting the past. Instead, enjoy this moment and make the most of RIGHT NOW because life is short and we just never know what tomorrow may bring.
In order to bring these ideas into your life, ask yourself:
- What dreams do I have for my life?
- What goals would I like to pursue?
- What are my true passions and desires?
- How will I begin pursuing these things starting today?
- How can I make the most of this moment?
- What opportunities could I take advantage of?
- What will I later regret not doing or saying at this very moment?
- What if I said “yes” instead of “no” more often? What then?
At the end of your life’s journey all that matters is how you lived and whether or not you made the most of every opportunity that life presented you with. There will be no regrets if you dream as if you’ll live forever and live as if you’ll die today.
IQ Matrix Maps
Here are links to complementary IQ Matrix posters that go into more depth about this topic:
- Risk Taking: Provides guidance on how to take more intelligent risks.
- Dare to Risk it All: Provides insights to help shift how you think about taking risks.
- Plunge into Uncertainty: Provides ideas on how to approach uncertainty.
- Having No Regrets: Explores how to live a life of passion and promise, with no regrets.
- Living with No Regrets: Provides insights to help shift how you think about regrets.