Do you tend to worry a lot? Just maybe you’re the kind of person who habitually worries about absolutely everything? The moment things get a little uncertain you quickly jump to conclusions and freak yourself out. You immediately think of the very worst possible thing that could happen and obsess how it will impact your life. It’s safe to say that when you worry, nothing else seems to matter. What’s worse is that it ends up affecting every other aspect of your life. This surely isn’t the way to live. There must be something you can do to stop worrying about stuff. Just maybe the following six steps can help.
1) GAIN PROPER PERSPECTIVE
In order to stop worrying you first need to gain proper perspective of the situation. You are worrying about what might happen because of how you’re perceiving things. In other words, your worries are a manifestation of the stories you are telling yourself about how things will inevitably turn out. But how do you know this to be true? How do you know that your imagination isn’t playing tricks on you? Maybe it’s causing you to worry unnecessarily. Just possibly things are unlikely to turn out as you imagine. Consider that for a moment, then reflect on how else you could potentially view this situation.
2) CHALLENGE LIMITING BELIEFS
To stop worrying you need to assess how you’re interpreting this situation. You obviously feel a certain way because you believe something will happen. But a belief is not a fact. That you believe something will happen doesn’t make it so. I’m sure your beliefs have let you down in the past. They let you down because beliefs are essentially nothing more but assumptions we make about things. And assumptions are nothing more but stories we tell ourselves about how things will turn out. What if you chose to make a different set of assumptions? What if you chose to tell another story? Would that change what you believe about this situation? It sure could.
3) TURN WORRIES INTO A PROBLEM
It’s excruciatingly difficult to stop worrying when you feel you have no control over the situation. With no sense of control, you feel powerless and helpless to do anything that could influence the outcome. However, maybe you’re only feeling powerless because you’re viewing this situation in an unresourceful way. You may yet still be able to gain control, or at the very least some level of influence over this situation. But in order to do that you need to turn your worries into a problem. Problems are great because they come with handy solutions. When facing a problem, you therefore have a level of control that you can wield to overcome your worries.
4) PREPARE FOR THE WORST
he chances of your worries coming to fruition are probably quite small. Things will rarely turn out as you had imagined, and probably never as bad as you expect they will. But having said that, there is always a chance that the worst-case scenario you imagine, might actually come to fruition. What then? Well, the only rational thing to do is to prepare yourself for the worst-case scenario in advance. This of course might not stop you from worrying, but it may make you feel a little more confident and capable. And just possibly, you could even find some value in the situation, and maybe even turn it into a positive learning experience.
5) RELEASE CONTROL
Having turned your worries into a problem and mentally prepared yourself for the worst-case scenario, you should now have a good sense of the nature of your worries. There will be aspects of your worries that you will obviously have some semblance of control. There will however be other aspects of your worries where you will have little to no control over. Instead of concerning yourself with what you can’t control, make peace with it. These things are out of your hands, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Just let it go, and choose instead to focus on the things you can change or influence in some way.
6) SCHEDULE WORRY TIME
Having gone through the previous five steps, you should now feel much better about your predicament. However, as long as uncertainty still exists, there will always be room for some worrying. You will therefore never truly stop worrying — not when those worries involve other people. Worrying a little is of course part of the human experience, as long as your worries don’t get out of hand and affect other aspects of your life. However, the moment they start to interfere with everything else, that’s when you need to reel them in. The best way to do that is to schedule a specific time and place for doing all your worrying.
When it comes to worrying, you always have a choice. You can either choose to stop worrying and give yourself some needed peace of mind, or you can choose to continue indulging in your worries, and subsequently give yourself a headache.
Worrying of course won’t change anything. It’s actually quite a useless act. We worry and make ourselves feel sick to our stomachs about possible future scenarios, that may or may not eventuate. We obsess about all the things that could potentially go wrong, when the odds of things going right could actually be stacked in our favor.
Isn’t it time to stop worrying? You’re really not doing yourself any favors. Life is here to be lived, not to be worried over. With that in mind, commit yourself to taking charge of your worries and start living your life in more optimal and helpful ways.
Imagine for a moment you could develop new habits and methods of thinking where you naturally and effortlessly adopt these ideas into your life. How would that make you feel? Would you feel more fulfilled, empowered and in control?
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Want to know more about this topic? Here are some helpful links to articles that you may find of value:
- 5 Tips to Avoid Becoming a Chronic Worrier @ Psychology Today
- 7 Things to Stop Worrying About @ Marc and Angel
- 10 Hacks to Help You Stop Worrying Now @ Lifehack
- How to Stop Worrying About Things You Can’t Control @ Personal Excellence
- Practical Ideas to Help You Overcome Your Worries @ IQ Matrix